Re: read male got dumped

Portland OR

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You don’t mention your own behavior so it’s hard to know what’s really going on, but I’m willing to offer a perspective. * Well it's been 2 month. Came home girlfriend said I want you to move out. Not even a argument in two years. -If you never argued she might not have shared her true feelings with you. It’s healthy to disagree sometimes, it means we are being honest and navigating our needs with our partner. It’s essential in relationships. So I did the next day. Now she won't talk to me and tells me she is never coming back to. Won't tell me what I did. -Then it is not about you, it is about her. She has something she’s not dealing with, much like the silence through out the relationships. She’s got communication issues. That’s on her. For two years she couldn't go one day with out me at her side. Loving me every day. -She could simultaneously love you and not be happy in the relationship. Relationships can be very challenging to the self. We tend to compromise a lot initially in the relationship and then can’t quite get back to where we need to be for ourselves. The other person doesn’t understand what’s occurred because those needs have not been communicated. Hence, complex feelings. -She could also be codependent. With the other stuff you’ve mentioned it would make sense. (It’s a coping mechanism for not having emotional needs met as a child and unable to develop coping tools.) She may have really cared for you but probably not a healthy love for her. She wasn’t speaking up, and can’t seemed to confront you with her feelings even now, so let’s just wrap it up as unhealthy for you, too, which you were not aware of. As much as it sucks, it means you dodged a bullet. Your life together would not have been truly fulfilling without honesty. Hell I'm 63 and she is 60. -You’ve got another 20 or so years to woo and romance a bunch of women. Learn from this and then have fun. Love as often as possible. Get hurt. Love again. Someone please tell me what I did. -* See above Can't sleep eat are anything. -That will pass once you’ve processed this experience. Give yourself space to feel everything and then you’ll be able to move on.