Re:Re: Narcissism

1st near Main, Hamilton MT

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The point is to heal to the point that you learn WHO you are without being in survival mode. Not people pleasing to get your needs met. That’s manipulation. Not judging yourself or others. Not listening to that inner voice criticizing you that pretends to be you. It’s not. That voice was put there by someone else in your formative years. The voice that is YOU, is not the thinker. You are the observer of those thoughts. Be compassionate and empathetic. See things from everyone else’s perspective even when you feel attacked. Realize that you ARE the villain sometimes. Know that what others think of you, isn’t your business and says more about them than it does about you. Take the higher road and don’t meet out more trauma for perceived slights. Not everything is about you and not everyone is out to get you. Be kind. For absolutely no reason. Establish hard and soft boundaries that you are very clear about and let there be consequences that you follow through on. Figure out what your greatest fantasy in regards to true love is. Is it to be rescued? Abandonment wound. Is it to have a physically perfect partner who is great in bed? You are shallow and emotionally closed off. Figure it out and then recognize if someone seems to fit that bill perfectly right off the bat, it’s a giant red flag. Nobody needs to be fully healed to be in a relationship and there are some wounds that can only be addressed and worked on within the context of a healthy relationship. Those boundaries need to be firm before you do. Don’t give 3 and 4 chances. Value yourself and choose you. But healing does take time. Self awareness and recognition takes time. Become 100% self sufficient so that you are not engaging in co-dependency. You and they will set a healthy dynamic and respect you more. Good luck. I love you💜🙏