How to Write a Letter to Your Birth Mom

Salt Lake City UT

20 December, 2021

7:30 AM

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As an adult adoptee, you’ve been searching for biological family members. Maybe you’ve finally found your birth parents. Maybe you finally tracked down a biological sibling. Or perhaps you’ve identified your birth mother. Regardless of the specific genetic relationship—half-sibling, mom, dad, etc—you need to make contact with this person. You’ve decided that writing a letter to your birth mom, among the different ways to contact your birth parents, is your best avenue to express your feelings and make that first introduction. Now think of your introductory letter to your bio mom as a self-promotional piece. You want to “sell her” on the idea of having a relationship with you. That’s why you went through all the work to track her down, right? Your letter should: Reassure your biological mother that you’re not bitter over her placing you for adoptionShowcase your maturity and emotional stabilityConvey a non-judgmental and compassionate attitudeLet her know you’re eager to have her in your life but that you understand if she chooses not to accept