Not rejection but redirection

Phoenix AZ

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Abandonment sucks. You lose faith in people, question your worth, and lose trust in yourself. I find that the important thing to remember when this happens is that it’s not a reflection of who you are as a person. There is no such thing as rejection — only redirection. Nobody rejects you, they simply prioritize other things over you. That sounds harsh, but here’s why you shouldn’t take “rejection” personally: it’s not about you. It’s about their current needs and where they’re at in their life. All this means is, as things are right now, you are not “for” them. They are not “for” you. If the two of you are not meant to be together in this moment, you will separate like oil and water. Their needs are not matching up with yours; this might be due to a difference in philosophies, values, goals, common interests, current lessons being learned, or a combination of these. You’re just not for them. They’re just not for you. That doesn’t mean you’re any less worthy, that there’s something wrong with you, or that you’re unloveable. It just means you aren’t compatible with them (or you were, but aren’t anymore). It’s not a reflection of your worth — it’s an indication of where you’re at in life in relation to them; and right now, you’re not on the same page. They chose to leave for their own reasons. Even if they think it’s about you, it’s not; it’s about what they want, and there’s nothing wrong with that — we all get to choose who we date. You’re a worthy and incredible person all on your own. You don’t exist to be liked or loved; try to worry less about being liked, and devote more attention to deciding who you like. And learn not to take “rejection” so personally. There is no rejection, only redirection. Your people will find you. In order to make room for the new, the old has got to go. To quote Eckhart Tolle, some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. Don’t question yourself if you know what you brought forth into that relationship and your intentions were true. If they had better intentions with you they would have went about it better. Talked about the problem and given the opportunity to understand and work on it together. If something other than is on their mind nothing matters to them, will make them stay, nor care to what extent this may hurt you.