The lie that you live

San Francisco CA

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It's happened to us all, at one time or another. We've put our trust in people who didn't deserve it, only to realize later we were being deceived big time. We feel betrayed and hurt. But even worse, we feel responsible. "What's wrong with me that I allowed this to happen?" we wonder. 1. Forgive yourself for being fooled. It may take years, and a lot of learning about liars and propaganda for you to finally see that the responsibility for the harm they did is their fault and not yours. 2. Don't give known liars the benefit of the doubt. Someone who's consistently lied to you is not likely to start being truthful just because certain lies have been exposed. Keep this in mind when deciding how-and whether-to deal with the liars going forward. 3. Learn the basics of deception detection. No, this won't save you from ever being fooled again. But you'll be a step ahead of the game if you learn the facial expressions, phrases, and behaviors that tend to signal that someone may very well be lying to you. 4. Stop being shy about checking things out. Don't be scared to at least listen to naysayers and hear out their point of view. Don't be scared to look at and think about the many things that simply don't "add up" in support of what the liars are telling you, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable due to fear of that you may alienate them. 5. Don't change who you are. In the aftermath of having been deceived it's very hard not to become a mistrustful person yourself. If having been deceived keeps you distant from other people, then you've let the liar change who you are and how you live in the world. You'll have let them steal what should matter to you the most. And you'll have given those liars more power than they deserve!